Thoughts for the Month
We are not our feelings. We are not our thoughts. We are not our actions. However, we are still accountable for them. We are the observer of our behavior; we are the divine consciousness behind our feelings, the stillness between our thoughts. We are greater than any self-imposed label or attachment—far greater. We are pure, divine magnificence.
Ask yourself: Is the behavior that I exhibit in alignment with the person I’d like to be? Does my behavior support the person I’d like to become?
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Read some past Thoughts for the Month below.
- 2019 Thoughts So Far
- Thoughts for 2018
Love is enough as it is. It doesn’t attempt to elevate itself or act in fallacious ways. It has nothing to prove and no conditions. Love isn’t trying to get anywhere. It stays true to itself at all times. It is perfect as it is. Love has no agenda, except to love. Love does not involve ownership or control. It continues to love and accept, while always taking care of itself. In the presence of love, all that is false falls away.
Today’s goal: be authentic. Be authentic in each moment, in every interpersonal exchange, and to whatever I may be feeling. Bottom line, stay true to myself.
We have but two obligations in life: to always be true to ourselves, and to allow. Being true to yourself allows the wholeness of your unique magnificence to draw you in the direction most beneficial to you and to all others. Allowing requires faith, non-attachment to preconceived outcomes, and trusting that all is well.
As we become more conscious, we gain more awareness, which allows us to witness life aligning before our eyes. When we’re no longer denying the present moment, we can see how everything is lining up to support us. The more awakened we become, the more evident this is. We soon find ourselves moving with the flow of our life.
Communicating honestly doesn’t mean that we get to assault others with our words under the guise of “just being honest”. No—we are always responsible for what we say, our tone, our delivery, and any reactions we might have to someone else’s response.
Gossip is one of the most common threats to our ability to remain aligned with the present moment and the world. Seemingly harmless, yet insidious, it clogs our receptivity, bogs us down, reduces us, and places us in direct opposition to our true nature. Please be aware of how often you unconsciously internalize and compartmentalize others’ perceptions, opinions, judgments, and resentments. As we continue to live in love and gratitude while growing in consciousness, we will cease to receive gossip. It will feel foreign, unkind, and inappropriate to do so. By gently turning it away, we will no longer be an invitation for the perpetuation of hate, prejudice, or separatism on our planet.
I believe that everyone, at their core, is love. This logic renders evil acts a byproduct of a person’s fearfulness. Such acts can only be executed by someone who has lost the awareness of their true, divine nature and become a victim of their own pain and limitations. The antidote is conscious connection to the love that we are, to the love that sources us. That connection alters our mindset so that we may live in a peaceful state of trust, presence, and faith. This state of connection is so overpowering that it can put an end to even the most depraved behavior.
Remember, we are all one. Every person you meet represents a divine consciousness, even if they’ve temporarily lost sight of this awareness. When faced with a challenging personal encounter, do your best to speak not to the emotion you see before you, but to the divinity that exists within it. Peace begins with each of us.
Our power to fashion our world as we desire it to be is much stronger when we authentically embody more love than enmity. This doesn’t mean that we must wander in search of more love to procure from the outside world. Rather, we can amplify our loving from within ourselves. This way, we’re not waiting for love to happen or looking for love. We’re aware that love is what we are so we naturally embody a love that is thriving and magnetic. Sourced by our higher selves, we channel, experience, and allow that love to effortlessly flow through us.
Those qualities that you admire in others are also embodied by you. If you didn’t possess them yourself, you wouldn’t be able to recognize them in someone else. That other person is directly reflecting the beauty and majesty that are radiating out of you. If you spot it, you’ve got it.
There have been many times in my life when I thought that I knew how I wanted a situation to unfold. My attachment to a certain outcome would then cause me suffering whenever the progress of that situation varied from what I had in mind. In hindsight, it’s clear that my vision and perception were too limited. I thought that I knew how I wanted it to turn out, but God had a grander, more expansive vision for me – one from which I would derive new talents, new gifts, new insights, and more access to my divine light.
Incredible things come into our lives all the time. Yet when this happens to us while we’re living in a guarded or fearful state, we are often not prepared, unable to recognize, or unable to receive it. Skeptical of its authenticity or of our worthiness, some of us will even unconsciously sabotage it, push it away, or force it out of our lives. If it feels farfetched or weighty to allow yourself the reality of having what you desire, can you employ your faith? Use it to strengthen your awareness of the fact that one of God’s greatest desires is to bestow his generosity upon you. Believe this, and you will be ready to welcome all of that good and limitless abundance as it arrives.
Can you imagine what our planet would be like if, from the time we were born, we were all encouraged to express who we truly are? It’s likely that we would all be very open, welcoming, compassionate, and interested in learning from one another. We’d relish each other’s differences, champion diversity, and be eager to bring our uniqueness to the world. What power and synergy there would be in the absence of inhibitions—each of us living to express and celebrate our magnificence while illuminating the planet with our joyousness.
By being our individual, magnificent selves and standing tall in the truth of who we really are, we find our experiences more infused with color. They become vibrant, kaleidoscopic. Meanwhile, our interactions become more intimate and effortless. Instead of feeling threatened by others’ unique and beautiful selves, we find ourselves valuing, appreciating, and relishing one another’s distinct characteristics.
There are many paths to the top of the mountain. Each and every one is valid and worthy. There are no dead ends. All paths “work” and go all the way to the top. Any single path can take us home. We are ready for different paths at varying times in our lives. There are many who may stop or fall asleep along the way. Don’t disturb them until they are ready. We are all in the exact, perfect place right now.
Marianne Williamson once said, “We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You playing small doesn’t serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.” Absolutely. Amen!
Though we might have different definitions or terms for our higher power—God, the universe, spirit, energy, etc.—they all are embodiments of a divine consciousness, of a divine intelligence. Our higher power is omnipotent, unprejudiced, loving, compassionate, understanding, uniting, and whole. It does not discriminate. It does not see color, race, gender, or sexual orientation. It loves each and every one of us exactly the same. It is the essence of pure, unconditional love. This same loving lives inside of you.
If you come from a higher power that is loving, perfect, and beautiful, how could you be any different than the whole? We are made in Its image and likeness. If your higher power is love, then it only makes sense that you are that love, too. If your higher power is perfect, then everything it sprouts must be perfect, as well. If your higher power possesses beauty, then that same beauty lies within you. This is the same for every single person on this planet.
Ask yourself, “How can I create enjoyment in this experience? How can I create enjoyment in each and every one of my experiences?” Try allowing enjoyment to be your motivator in place of approval, satiation, escape, etc. How might that transform your experience of life?
When you realize your permanent position at the heart of the universe and feel your magnificence and your connection to all that is, time and distance become irrelevant. You truly comprehend that you’re one with everything. We are all connected. There is no separation between you and me.
When we judge ourselves, we block the natural flow of energy in our bodies. Energy is meant to move, but our resistance to our true nature brings everything to a halt. When we accept ourselves, we align with all of who we are, which opens the channels within us so that energy may flow strongly, powerfully, and fluidly.
The purest form of love, unconditional love, is harmonious and all-inclusive. I’m referring to the way that our higher power loves. There are no exclusions. Our higher power embraces and loves all of us as we are. There are no judgments and no conditions, for judgment and harmony cannot coexist. Harmony is created by meeting life with a fully open heart. What will your experience be like when you can lovingly embrace everything and everyone as it is; when you can wholeheartedly embrace life for the wonder that it brings?
All of humanity shares the same inner purpose: to awaken more each day and tune into the great source of life that lives within us. The more we become still to discover and live this incredible force that’s within us at all times, the more that it manifests out into the world. From there, everything we do is infused by the power of a source greater than us.
As you continue to grow in presence and grace and to become more conscious, you will find that many of your moments will feel sacred to you. This is an experience that you’ll have to live to best understand. I invite you to continue venturing inward, where all of your answers, magnificence, and luminosity are awaiting your discovery.
When an attempt to achieve a goal ends up differently than we intended, we might feel that we have failed. Yet to fail is not possible. Failure is only a state of mind. You can still be successful even when the result doesn’t look the way you’d pictured it. Every “failure” is an opportunity. It is your job to open your mind so that you may see how that result was actually a success for you. With trust, faith, and the knowledge that we don’t know better than God, we can feel successful no matter where we are.
Please live knowing that you are always exactly where you’re supposed to be. Your reality is the proof of that. When you can truly understand this, the amount of peace in your life will no longer be limited.
In my experience, my willingness has been key to my sobriety from drugs and alcohol and my abstinence from compulsive eating and bulimarexia: my willingness to venture inside; my willingness (and courage) to feel and express my emotions; my willingness to tell the truth and expose myself; my willingness to ask for help; my willingness to accept what is; my willingness to forgive; my willingness to make amends. Willingness, to me, is the equivalent of investing into myself. It has afforded me a clean, open, and healthy life.
I find that some of my most profound development and self-actualization begins with me feeling victimized. I am grateful that I can trek some of these darker, denser hallways (of my life) with my victim mentality lighting the way. For me, this means that I can feel my way through blame, fault, judgment, anger, rage, pain, hurt, sadness, loss, unfairness, injustice, inequality, and so much more. The beauty in this journey, is that I am always led to a doorway of light. Within this luminosity resides acceptance, peace, clarity, accountability, broader perspective, direction, guidance, emancipation, freedom, presence, grace, and God.
The time is now: to rally together, to join arms, to work as one. The time is now: to put aside our differences, our political agenda, and our religious divide. The time is now: to rise, to reclaim our humanity, and to love our neighbor. Reform and empowerment are possible when we unify and act for the greater good. The time is now.
Now, more than ever, we are being called to love, called to action, called to integrity, called to oneness. Please check in with yourself, and listen to what your heart is telling you. Please get still inside, and let your heart guide you. We need your voice. We need your presence. We need your humanity. We need your faith. We are all one, and we are all in this together. May we learn to love, accept, appreciate, and revere our brothers and sisters.
Throughout my life’s experiences, I’ve found that a great sense of my peace lies in being able to be with as many different fear-based feelings as I can from an observational, non-judgmental, neutral, and accepting place within myself. The more that I can be with my feelings, the less they will cage and own me. The less they cage and own me, the less power they have over me. Bringing awareness to all that is happening inside of ourselves is paramount; it is life-giving. It is actually by giving our feelings a voice that they begin dissolving on their own… and we begin rising. Trust this.
One of the most beautiful things about having 32 years of sobriety is how my consciousness has grown and expanded. I’ve become far less discriminatory of myself and much more compassionate with myself. I find that being patient, understanding, and merciful with myself allows for a much smoother ride. In my presence and availability, I am open to receive guidance, support, and insight from my higher power for how to navigate life’s trials and tribulations with far greater ease.
Many of us try to force a decision upon ourselves. We will fret and stress and worry and push. We get anxious, uptight, paralyzed, reactive. What if we didn’t need to make the decision that we thought that we needed to make? What if we could just allow ourselves the space to sit with it until it reveals itself? What would life be like then? Do you think that it’s possible for decisions to make themselves? Think about it. Aren’t decisions made at the perfect time, at the perfect moment when you have all of the essential information?
Please remember, as you embark upon this journey, that there is no right way or wrong way. There’s only the perfect way, and whichever way you choose is perfect for this time and place on your path. I just ask that you be as nurturing with yourself as you can be, at all times. Please be respectful of you.
If you are having a difficult time finding forgiveness for someone, please honor the fact that you may still need that wall of anger and judgment until you don’t. That said, as you awaken and ascend in consciousness, you’ll begin to notice how uncomfortable and how unkind it is to yourself to carry any dense, heavy toxicity inside of you. You’ll begin to witness its effects upon your life and possibly even upon your health. I say this, because I truly believe that our distressing thoughts can transmute themselves into illness in our bodies. I am wholeheartedly convinced that that was a major contributing factor to the testicular cancer that I experienced in 1999. I raise this point not to alarm you, but simply to inform you so that you can be more conscious as to how your thoughts are affecting your person.
If you really want to be free, begin to notice your reaction to criticism. Begin to notice which adjectives or opinions conjure an adverse reaction within you when someone thinks, feels, or says them about you. Do you think that the comment hurt (or stung) because a part of you might believe or fear that it is true? Come on out, liberate yourself. Be truthful and flush out your “self-bias”. You don’t have to hide, deny, and conceal this from yourself any longer. That very thing that was said about you – that caused you to be defensive, argumentative, or reactive; is the very jewel inside of you wanting to be accepted, embraced, loved, and understood by you. Amen.
Adhering to my integrity nullifies my impulse to try to be the bigger person or take the high road. In fact, it nullifies that concept altogether. Furthermore, it allows me the security of knowing that I can count on myself at all times to do the honest thing. Doing the honest thing is the right thing for me, always.
In our full, authentic self-expression, when something doesn’t work for us, we can clearly, lovingly, and simply say so without feeling that we need to explain ourselves, offer up anything, or feel guilty. You’re enough to say no. Please remember, a no from your heart is a yes to your life.
We will absolutely face trying times over the course of our lifetime. We experience legal issues, addictions, divorce, illness, loss, and so much more. I truly believe that these situations are created for us to grow, heal, expand, develop, and evolve. These experiences allow us to rise – to be all of who we are meant to be. Trust… and trust the process. When I am faced with a tough situation, I find it highly beneficial to ask myself: What are my expectations in this situation? Are they creating stress or peace? How is this benefitting me right now? What am I learning? What is the lesson for me in this? What is honest and correct for me? What is the opportunity here?
I have always believed (at my core) that everything is happening for my greatest good. In my toughest moments, I do my best to draw from this faith. I have also learned that I can enjoy my life regardless of the situation that lies before me and that I never have to be owned by the temporary circumstances that I am experiencing. I do my best to feel my way through, so that I emerge with deeply broadened perspective, immense gratitude, more of myself, and mindfulness that will enhance the rest of my life.
This is a tall order. See if you can accept every single thing in your life, as it is, right now, in this moment. This would include welcoming every thought, every feeling, every situation, every circumstance, all of yourself, all about others, where you currently are in your life, and so much more. You see, by accepting and welcoming all as it is right now, you allow for the possibility of fulfillment without condition.
I wholeheartedly believe in the power of love. I find it to be healing, unifying, gratifying, and inclusive. I experience it as accepting, curious, compassionate, and wondrous. It’s taken me many years to realize that I’m deserving of my own love – of my own loving; of my own mercy; and of my own kindness. My graciousness is imperative to my health, happiness, and well-being. I am beyond grateful for the road that I have traveled to be brought to this enlightened understanding. Being loving in the world begins with me being loving with myself.
Listening is one of the greatest ways that we can serve not only ourselves, but also one another. The degree to which we can listen and really hear what another human being is saying will be reflected directly in our friendships, partnerships, and relationships. When people have been truly listened to and not judged or reprimanded, they leave the encounter knowing that what they expressed was received, valued, and acknowledged. This immensely shifts the dynamic of the relationship by creating more safety and trust. In the absence of barriers and defenses, we find more warmth, affection, and understanding in our relationships, as well. With a stronger foundation of trust, more intimacy, playfulness, and connection can be explored.
Our only role is to walk beside people in support instead of doing someone’s life for them or telling them how. As a coach, I guide people into discovering their own direction rather than telling them what they should or shouldn’t do. Instead of unintentionally sending the message to clients that they need me, I send them the message that they are perfectly capable of piloting their lives on their own. They’re now liberated to meet their own needs and depend upon themselves. Standing tall in their competence, they see how self-reliant they are. This allots them the euphoria of rising and expanding beyond their wildest imagination. In guiding, we get to relish witnessing others discover the luminosity within themselves. We greatly empower other people by allowing them ownership of their own journey.